The Basics

Your thoughts should not be clouded, nor you be blind to their flaws; you should be at your most rational when considering them and it is those flaws that were already considered before anything was done to appeal to them those flaws were deemed tolerable. A future with them should be achieveable, not just imaginable. Any issues with commitment felt by anyone can usually be traced back to a combined fear of rejection and of catastrophe (making a big mistake). If you have the free time to discuss a future together and it fits the criteria mentioned above, you stand a chance. Your relationship should be built on a foundation of trust, support, and affection: Trust- Be open with them, tell them anything and expect them to listen: never lie to them. If either of you do not do this then there has been an issue of trust and this must be resolved. Support- If they do not listen or mock you for your troubles or your triumphs, they do not feel for you what you think you feel for them (odds are, you really don’t feel what you think you do for them). Affection- Affection; a caress: not lustful grope. That is to say that every intimate moment of physical affection (regardless of what this action may actually be) is to be done with the utmost respect for one-another. If one says “no,” then the other is to comply (and likewise for the other). This is the basic foundation for a relationship: Security.