Relationships

If there's no trust, there's nothing

My first boyfriend tricked my young mind into believing that he couldn't trust me if he couldn't log into my social media

There was no privacy, no friends, no messages he couldn't see

Why should I want my privacy?

That must mean I'm keeping secrets- that I have something to hide

It wasn't until I spilled everything to my best friend that I began to question these ideas

And it wasn't until I watch someone else be in a toxic relationship until I realized it was unhealthy

I'd tell her to run- stay away from him

"He's no good," I'd tell her

I began to realize I was swimming in a pool of my own hypocracy

How could I be worried for my best friend and see nothing wrong with my situation?

One year of feeling like I was under someone's thumb before I realized I should be done

What is a relationship without trust?

Why should I be with someone that has to scavenge through my phone for reasons to not trust me?

Honesty and trust are the most vital aspects of a relationship- they mean nothing without it

If you have to have access to all of someone's most private things, you don't belong in that relationship

Building a friendship should begin before building a relationship

Starting with honesty and trust

Love doesn't come with guidelines 

Unconditional love doesn't have rules

It doesn't mean "you only love me if you'll do this for me"

Love isn't conditions and rules- it's far more simple