“You need to study harder.”

“You need to get better grades.”

“You need to try harder.”

“You need to work out more.”

“You need to lose weight."

“You need to be more outgoing.”

 

No

 

Some people everyday like to make their input of what I need

 

I study every night

I go over every answer until I memorize it

I ace most of my tests

I have all A’s

I am on honor roll every semester

Sure, I make a few spelling errors that have to be corrected

But yet I need to study harder and get better grades?

 

No

 

I play sports every season

I run, jump, and condition within them all

I am 5’9 and weigh 165, which is the normal athletic weight

I work my butt off in everything I do, staying up after a game making sure to get homework done, barely eating, having the right nutrients after a competition.

But yet I need to work out more and lose weight?

 

No

 

I talk to most people

I like being goofy in public

Sure I am a little shy, but who isn’t when meeting someone for the first time?

I am always willing to help out and get involved

But yet I need to be more outgoing?

 

No

 

So it sounds like other people’s wants for me are higher than my own wants for myself

 

Do I need to be happy?

 

Do I need to be successful?

 

Yes.

 

Yes I need to be happy!

 

Yes I need to be successful!

 

But in order to achieve my list of needs

 

I need you to stop criticizing me and needing me to become the person you could never be.